if one more person asks us "when are you going to start having babies?" or "why don't you have any babies yet" i'm liable to... i don't know what, but, it won't be good, i can tell you that much!
i've never, in my life, pestered married people with the above questions and i can't stand that people are doing it to me/us!
do they really want to know?! what if i told them we haven't had children yet not just because of my physical health, but that i'm absolutely terrified of the idea of raising children as a whole ~ that i'm terrified that i'll become deathly ill again while pregnant and we'll have to make a decision that no one should ever have to make, one that's devastated me for the past nearly 8 years already and i don't think i could survive again ~ that my husband is 10 years older than i am and he already works so much and so hard and is just plain tired from a long, hard & hard working life and i'm not sure it would be fair to him to start having children at his age now given how old he'll be as they grow...
i honestly don't know if we're going to have children. hubby's ok with it either way.
do they really want to know any of that?! no! so i tell them we haven't gotten the ok from my doctor's yet. that used to silence further inquiries but now they're coming from all directions and i'm sick of it! the question(s) hurt me so much, i wish people would just stop asking.
i've never, in my life, pestered married people with the above questions and i can't stand that people are doing it to me/us!
do they really want to know?! what if i told them we haven't had children yet not just because of my physical health, but that i'm absolutely terrified of the idea of raising children as a whole ~ that i'm terrified that i'll become deathly ill again while pregnant and we'll have to make a decision that no one should ever have to make, one that's devastated me for the past nearly 8 years already and i don't think i could survive again ~ that my husband is 10 years older than i am and he already works so much and so hard and is just plain tired from a long, hard & hard working life and i'm not sure it would be fair to him to start having children at his age now given how old he'll be as they grow...
i honestly don't know if we're going to have children. hubby's ok with it either way.
do they really want to know any of that?! no! so i tell them we haven't gotten the ok from my doctor's yet. that used to silence further inquiries but now they're coming from all directions and i'm sick of it! the question(s) hurt me so much, i wish people would just stop asking.
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both are ridiculous!
i was not raised to judge others by what they have or don't have, what they do or don't do, if they have children or not, but that seems how a lot of society is nowadays. it's disappointing and demeaning.
(thank you for your support! it really does make me feel better!)